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11 March: Peter Fishpool

John Arnold, who had been on the same course as Peter at Portsmouth College of Education (PCE) in 1971 introduced Peter. After training at PCE Peter taught a Crookhorn and then at Dartington Hall school in Devon. From 1990 to 2001 he was the Communications Secretary for the Religious Society of Friends in Britain and from 2001 to 2013 CEO of Christian Education.

From 2013 to the present he is the UK Convener and Company Director of The Male Journey Ltd and the Correspondent Treasurer of the George Gorman Memorial Fund.

In he talk Peter quoted from the film "Brave Heart": Every man dies but not every man lives. He asked "How are you living your Christian life?"

He also read the poem The Summer Day by Mary Olive:

The Summer Day    
Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean-
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down-
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
  I don't know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?

Peter said that men are not good at sharing from the heart and need a buddy system to support each other. he provided the following statistics (click on a date to see origin of data):

  • In the UK, men are three times as likely to take their own lives than women. (2017)

  • Males accounted for 66% of all alcohol-related deaths in the UK in 2016

  • In every age category, from 16-24 years to aged 75+, men show signs of drug dependence more than their female counterparts. (2018)

  • Men were more likely to be victims of Crime Survey for England and Wales (CSEW) violent crime than women (2.1% of males compared with 1.3% of females. This was true for all types of violence, with the exception of acquaintance violence which showed no significant difference and domestic violence which showed the reverse trend (0.4% of females were victims compared to 0.2% of males) (2017)

  • The number of men in prison (2017) was 80,794 (95.3%); the number of women was 3,952 (4.7%)

  • In the year 2017/18 596,000 men were arrested in England and Wales; the corresponding figure for women was 103,000 - a ratio of men to women of almost 6:1.

  • The British Crime Survey 2009/10 showed that men were at greater risk of personal crime and violence than women. Women were at higher risk of theft from the person and intimate violence.

In many societies, and particularly in the past, young men or boys undertook a rite of passage, proving themselves before their tribe or community.

Peter has become involved in a modern version of rites of passage through organisations such as The Male Journey, The Mankind Project and The New Warrior Adventure Training.

He commended what we are doing in Men's Group in the way in which we seek to support and encourage each other.